4 Mindset Shifts Needed For Self-Transformation

The magic formula of behaviour change must be as valuable if not more valuable than the formula for anti-ageing or hair regrowth. Why?! Because when we can make any desired behaviour happen due to our free will, we are free. Isn’t freedom a holy grail of personal development?

This article aims to explain the challenges behind changing our habits and share simple steps in the change of our mindset needed to get one step closer to feeling back in control of the choices we make to better ourselves.

“​​Everything can be taken from a man … but the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances.” – Viktor Frankl

Why does this quote matter? Because developing the power of self-awareness is how we can free ourselves from our limiting beliefs by making desired changes in our mindset, in our emotions, and in our actions a reality. If we could all create new habits easily, the personal development industry wouldn’t be worth over 40 billion dollars today.

As human beings, we are used to continuous change, especially when we are young, we seem less scared to face change than when we are grown up. Why is that? Aren’t we more experienced in life? Why do we resist change so much and why does it seem to become harder as we grow older?

Mindset Shift No.1 – Believe change is possible

The biggest barrier to transformation is not believing we can change or perceiving it as too difficult. We are only limited by the way we perceive ourselves.

I have always been this way. I will never change. This is our ego’s voice trying to keep us in our safe familiar selves. Our upbringing, parenting, schooling, personality types and life experiences determined our beliefs, values, our fears, our sources of joy, triggers for sadness, anger, and the rest!

So, while most of our core ways of perceiving the world isn't our fault, it is our responsibility to change this if we want a different and better outcome for ourselves. When we change how we perceive ourselves, we change the beliefs which limit us from being different, from being a more expanded version of ourselves which is always available to us. Our ego, in simple terms, is a set of beliefs which are used to check if something is safe or unsafe.

When I was younger, I had low confidence and self-esteem and my environment reinforced this. I didn’t believe in myself or the possibility of change. I had low ambitions and accepted success as simply getting by. Between the age of 15 and 17, my environment changed, I moved from France to England, I had new friends, and my negative beliefs were not being reinforced as much.

I noticed a lot of progress quickly in learning a new language, learning a new way of making friends, and more freedom in the schooling system. My old beliefs were challenged as I wasn’t the shy, struggling schoolgirl I had known before, but a fast learning and thriving teenager, who felt like she was given a blank slate to be whoever she wanted and a fresh start. I became more confident mainly because of being in a new more supportive environment.

The first discovery Executive Coaching session is the most important, because this is where I can see if there is the right mindset to succeed in making a lasting change.

Mindset Shift No.2 – Decide to invest time in yourself

Just like when we go to the gym to build muscle, it takes time to see external results when it comes to building self-awareness and changing our mindset.

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